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Is he the 'write' one?
By JOANNE RICHARD, QMI Agency
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    Valentine's Day etiquette
     

    The writing is on the wall -- actually it's in that Valentine's Day card. Cards signed by your sweetie reveal more than just who sent it - mind, motives and personality are signed, sealed and delivered.

    "It's possible to know all about somebody just from his or her handwriting," says Andrea McNichol, a leading forensic graphologist at Brainprints.com.

    When it comes to Valentine's Day cards, if your name is on the envelope and it's large and neat, that's the write stuff. And if your name is inside the card too, love is in the air.

    While virtual love messages via texts and emails will abound on Valentine's Day, ideally they're a complement to the real thing. Getting a handwritten Valentine sends a message loud and clear that you're special, says McNichol, who has worked for the FBI.

    It takes time and effort to get a card and write on it -- all positive proof that things between you are coming up roses.


    According to the L.A. graphologist, other signs of good things to come include a handwritten personalized message inside the card along with him signing his name, and not just initials, near the personalized prose.

    More love points if he spelled your name correctly.

    Also size matters -- your name and his signature should be approximately the same size. This denotes you're on an equal playing field in the relationship.

    A card trumps a gift every time, "unless it's a car," laughs McNichol, adding that a card is more personal and telling than any gift.

    Stable, even-handed handwriting bodes well. "A healthy looking handwriting stays consistent in its direction, its legibility, pressure, sizing, spacing and style," says McNichol.

    And just what kind of Valentine's Day card does a graphologist get? A typed one, she adds.

    On the other hand, there are some red flags to keep in mind: "If he doesn't put your name inside the card, there may be intimacy problems going on," says McNichol.

    If his name is bigger than yours in the card, then he's stroking his own ego and considers himself more important than you, says McNichol, author of Handwriting Analysis: Putting It To Work for You (McGraw Hill).

    Signing with initials only is not a good sign - it indicates he doesn't want to be associated with writing the card. And word spacing also needs to be taken into account.

    "The distance between words indicates the distance he wants to keep between himself and others."

    Basically someone's script exposes their physical, intellectual and emotional states so McNichol encourages examining handwriting prior to dating or hiring someone.

    L.A. handwriting expert Bart Baggett says more than 100 individuals traits are revealed in handwriting, which include "glimpses into the subconscious mind, emotional responsiveness, intellect, energy, fears and defenses, motivations, imagination, integrity, aptitudes, and even sex drives and issues of trust."

    Handwriting is like body language, says Baggett, of Myhandwriting.com, "but is more specific and is frozen for a more detailed analysis of our unconscious movements."

    Meanwhile, take note of severe slant changes, severe size changes, no left margin, loads of mistakes, heavy cross outs, pressure changes, inconsistencies, says McNichol. "When there's no consistency whatsoever and the slant of the strokes veers severely in all directions, probably so does their mind ..."

    According to McNichol, a person's signature represents the writer's public self-image - "how he wants to be seen. If someone's signature is different from their regular handwriting, then perhaps they're putting on an act.

    "What you see may not be what you get," she adds.

    Interpret writing style

    • Flamboyant style: need for attention
    • Tiny and neat writing: good powers of concentration
    • Legible: desire to communicate
    • Large handwriting: extroverted, outgoing
    • Small handwriting: introverted, shy, realistic
    • Heavy pressure: feeling pressure or tension
    • Downward writing: feeling down or depressed
    • Pronounced slant to the left: emotionally withdrawn or repressed
    • Pronounced rightward angle: carried away by his or her feelings
    • Overly wide spaces: cautious, guarded
    • Overly narrow spaces: uptight and narrow minded
    • Level writing: feeling even-keeled mood wise
    • Uphill writing: positive mental energy.

    - Courtesy of Brainprints.com

    Troubling handwriting traits

    You may want to sign off with this sweetie if these appear:

    • Writing severely slanted in all directions indicates severe emotional instability.
    • Continually butting up against paper's right edge indicates severe impulsivity.
    • Full of mistakes indicates acute mental anxiety or drug/alcohol use.
    • Mistakes crossed out multiple times points to anxiety, severe frustration and anti-social tendencies.
    • Overly angular handwriting indicates anger and frustration.
    • Ignoring the left margin indicates not toeing the line of society.
    • - Courtesy of Andrea McNichol, author of Handwriting Analysis, Putting It To Work for You (McGraw Hill)

    Dating doodle

    Is he doodling on your dates? He may be disinterested. According to expert graphologist Andrea McNichol, "the most common reason for doodling is boredom."

    Common doodles interpreted, according to McNichol:

    • Stars: hopefulness
    • Circles: friendly, talkative
    • Hearts: love on the mind
    • Animals: sensitive to living creatures
    • Vehicles: desire to get away, reach a goal
    • Food: need for love and desire to be filled up
    • Boxes: desire to be constructive; 3D boxes signify an ability to see all sides of an issue
    • Triangles: desire to see things resolved
    • Arrows: ambition, motivation
    • Haphazard lines: frustrated, undirected
    • Trees: represent ego and ambition; a bare, droopy tree indicates lack of fighting spirit

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    Cursive cues

    "Handwriting analysis cannot identify age, gender, race, religion, whether a person is right- or left-handed, or the future."

    -- Bart Baggett, Myhandwriting.com and author of Handwriting Analysis: Secrets of Love, Sex & Relationships

     

    This story was posted on Tue, February 14, 2012

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