Women's same-sex dalliances are on the rise

A recent study published in The Lancet revealed that the sex lives of women have become more...

A recent study published in The Lancet revealed that the sex lives of women have become more adventurous over the past 20 years.(Fotolia)

Simone Paget, Special to QMI Agency

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A recent study published in The Lancet revealed that the sex lives of women have become more adventurous over the past 20 years.

The study which surveyed 15,162 men and women aged 16-74, found that 16% of women have had same-sex dalliances - kissing, touching or sex - compared to just 5% of men. While the number of men who have had same-sex experiences have stayed the same or decreased, the percentage of women who have had same sex experiences have risen by 6% over the past 20 years.

From the overwhelming popularity of the show Orange is the New Black, which prominently features complex lesbian characters and relationships, to the film Blue is the Warmest Colour, which has garnered considerable attention for its fearless sex scenes involving two women; female same-sex relationships have received a lot of attention in popular culture over the past year. However, is this a sign of growing acceptance towards same-sex relationships, or merely an indication that lesbians are “trendy” at the moment?

As author Jen Sincero writes in her book “The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks,” many women have had a same-sex experience or fantasized about it. As she explains, “sex with women can be as deep as it is liberating. It allows us to break free of heterosexual roles and expectations and explore sex in a whole new way. The fact that I'd overcome my inhibitions about being with women opened me up to trying things with them that I was too shy to try with a guy.”

A few years ago, I remember having this exact conversation with a good friend of mine. When I confessed that I’d never so much as kissed another woman, she offered to kiss me. It was one of the best kisses of my life. We’re still good friends.

However, when it comes to same-sex experimentation, it’s not all sunshine and roses for everyone involved. As another friend told me over drinks a few weeks ago, it’s not uncommon for her to meet (and fall for) women who are making quick “layover” in Lesbianism, only to return to the “straight life” when they’ve fulfilled the fantasy of being with another woman. As she explained, “I’m tired of being someone’s experiment.”

Although it’s fun to get wrapped up in an episode of Orange is the New Black (and maybe even fantasize about what it would be like to make out with Laura Prepon in a prison locker room), in real life there’s always the potential someone will get hurt. With greater freedom comes greater responsibility. Play ethically my friends - regardless of who you choose to sleep with.


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