Signs your boss hates you

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JOANNE RICHARD, Special to QMI Agency

, Last Updated: 10:39 AM ET

If you think your boss hates you, you're probably right.

No face time and the cold shoulder are strong indicators of head honcho hatred.

Yes, daily inaccessibility, indifference and insults may be tough blows to the old ego, but it's time to face the fact that things are far from hunky dory.

According to executive coach and author Dan Silvert, numerous studies have shown that the No. 1 reason employees leave organizations is their manager.

Your relationship with your boss can be as impactful, in many ways, as the significant other in your personal life, says Silvert, of takingflightwithdisc.com.

"A great relationship with your manager can provide professional validation and career growth opportunities that significantly contribute to your quality of life.

"A toxic relationship with your boss can diminish your confidence and leave you stressed out and exhausted, which then has a ripple effect both at work and at home," adds Silvert, co-author of Taking Flight: Master the DISC Styles to Transform Your Career, Your Relationships...Your Life (FT Press).

So he loves you, he loves you not? Red flags may be waving and you've failed to notice.

Signs your boss hates you:

1. Your boss tells you, point blank, that he/she doesn't want to see you very often.

2. Your boss regularly excludes you from meetings that clearly require your presence and then conceals decisions that took place.

3. Your boss refuses your multiple requests to sit down and "work things out."

4. Your boss speaks to you with contempt, both in private and in front of other employees.

5. Your boss fosters an alliance against you by spreading rumours about the quality of your work or your attitude with others who have influence in the organization.

- Courtesy Dan Silvert

And that's not all! Body cues speak volumes, according to Patti Wood, body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.

Possible cues of dislike:

1. No mirroring of voice and body language. "When we like someone, we match and mirror there voice, tone, tempo and speaking rate "¦" and body movements too, says Wood, of snapfirstimpressions.com.

2. Neutral facial expression: No empathy or interest expressed. "We often express interest through raised eye brows and smiles."

3. Eye rolling: A sign of contempt and disrespect for others.

4. Wrinkling of the nose: Indicates that something doesn't smell right and can be an indication of disrespect.

5. Puts up barriers, for example, touches cellphone or sips out of coffee cup. "It says symbolically this object is more important than you are, it is what I want to touch and interact with," says Wood.

Gender-specific cues:

Male boss: He stands facing you when giving you directions and sharing information: Standing side to side rather than face to face signifies that a man trusts you and is comfortable with you.

Female boss: She doesn't face towards you when you are speaking. "Women face you to show they respect you and want to hear you. If she doesn't like you, she may aim her body away from you, close her hands and arms over her heart."


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