How to break up with your wedding

Not every wedding story ends with a happily ever after. There could be a few breakups along the...

Not every wedding story ends with a happily ever after. There could be a few breakups along the way. But it's your party and you'll cry if you want to -- and break things off if you must -- so here's how:
Splitting with a bridal party member. "People are often select their bridal party early on. They often get talked or guilted into having relatives or friends from long ago who are no longer close," says Lemke, adding the larger the wedding party, the bigger the problems. And for those signing on to be in the bridal party, prepare for a "relentless orgy of spending."ť Anything can go wrong.
Be warned: Dropping someone from the wedding party never goes well. "Know the friendship will end," says Lemke, "so think that out before blowing up."
Feelings will get bruised, agrees Dr. Terri Orbuch, but if you must and still want preserve that relationship, then make it about you, not them. Say something like “I need to pare down my wedding party and now it has to only be family members; or I need to include my cousin in the wedding party and my family is really pressuring me."ť
Also consider giving that person another responsibility and talk that obligation up, adds Orbuch, relationship expert and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great. (Fotolia)

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Not every wedding story ends with a happily ever after.

There could be a few breakups along the way… The florist may piss you off, the caterer might give you a stomach ache, and even your fiance may send you off the deep end – and running for the nearest exit.

Emotions run high and meltdowns are plentiful during wedding planning, and might signal that it’s best to break up now or forever hold your peace.

Expectations and reality often clash, frequently over cash. It’s not all rose petals, pink champagne and an open cheque book, says wedding guru Karina Lemke. Things can get “downright ugly.

“Weddings require active work, a directed vision and budget, and a lot of compromise along the way,” says Lemke, a wedding planner at Karinalemke.com

While conflict and disagreements can be expected, breakups might be required. Calling it quits, whether with a bridesmaid, vendor, guest or even your beloved, will have fallout.

But it’s your party and you’ll cry if you want to -- and break things off if you must -- click through the gallery to see how.


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