The stigma of online dating seems to have all but disappeared in many circles.
Whenever I meet a friend's significant other these days, the chances of them having met online seems to have become increasingly prevalent. My thought is that this number will only rise as the next generation of Canadians grows up with smartphones permanently affixed to their palms and a new niche dating site goes live every day. Jewish? Looking for a sugar daddy? Into extramarital affairs? Enjoy dressing up like a Zombie, perhaps? You're in luck, because it has never been easier to find people just like you.
I can see the appeal. Once you get to a certain age, the idea of meeting that special someone in a noisy, crowded bar filled with 19-year-old drunken hooligans is a grim proposition. How else do you meet like-minded individuals without steamer trunks full of baggage who aren't already married or terminally undatable? Enter online dating - the perfect arena to efficiently find the date of your dreams from the comfort of your own home or office.
According to web measurement company comScore, Canadians spend more time online trolling dating sites than users in the U.S., U.K., France and Germany. British Columbia is even home to an Internet dating success story, Plenty of Fish. I will admit I did delve into this brave new world, albeit briefly, but immediately found it was not my cup of tea.
Firstly, it felt as though I was browsing a menu. "Hmm, I think I'll take the sporty blonde who enjoys snowboarding and likes cats." It also became abundantly clear quite early on that things are not necessarily what they appear. Navigating the dating jungle can be difficult enough without encountering profiles that represent what people wish they were, rather than who they actually are. The old adage rings true: you can't judge a book by its cover.
Despite the fact I most definitely have 'a type,' I rarely find myself actually dating women from this particular genre. It has even evolved into a common joke among friends who need only see a playful or sultry redhead to utter the word, "wheelhouse." Perhaps it is because there are attributes I rank higher than physical appearance.
Don't get me wrong, I am a deeply superficial person at times but I find a person's aura, the confidence with which they carry themselves, to be among the most attractive features.
In today's advanced world of constant yet emotionally devoid technological communication, it is pretty easy to misrepresent yourself until well into the courtship. I also found creating my profile a daunting and painful experience. I wear bespoke suits, enjoy fine Scotch and read literary greats; however, I also ride motorcycles, drink beer and sport tattoos. How can I sum myself up in 300 words or less in hopes of finding a suitable mate for eternity?