Have you ever noticed that you have a much better connection with your partner when you’re on vacation? I recall a few summers ago when an ex and I travelled to the Greek Islands. During our 10 day stay we had some of the steamiest, wildest sex of our entire six year relationship. Coincidence? I think not. Although the free flowing Ouzo and gorgeous sunsets didn’t hurt, there’s just something about being on vacation that totally ups the ante in the bedroom.
Dr. Carlen Costa is one of Canada’s most sought after sexologists and relationship experts. As she explains, “Being on vacation or away from your daily routine gives you a chance to remember what pleasure feels like. It allows you the opportunity to take a deep breath, re-center your priorities and hopefully remind you to feel your happiness - not just work for it.
Vacations, if done right, can be incredibly beneficial in reducing stress, helping to clear your mind and, to hopefully help you reconnect intimately with your current lover or partner.” Simply put - “Having vacation sex is amazing for your relationship!” says Costa.So, why is it that sex often seems so much better when we’re on vacation? Dr. Costa attributes it to the following principles: Time, novelty, indulgence and inspiration. “Romantic walks, Mai Tai's and dinner for two on the dock. When life is but a dream and the alarm clock is turned off you not only sleep deeper, but you feel open enough to enjoy the moment and let yourself be free of the daily stressors,” says Costa.
As she explains, when you feel good, you feel sexier which makes you want to satisfy the craving to connect with your partner.Being in a long-term relationship can be challenging when you both have very busy lives and careers. It’s easy to get wrapped up in deadlines, obligations and climbing the corporate ladder to the point where creating time for intimacy doesn’t always happen.
As Dr. Costa explains, “We all put up walls, some positive, some negative, that drive us to instinctively succeed on a day to day basis. Going on vacation with a loved one helps you bring down those walls and revitalize the eager passion stirring within.” She’s also careful to add, “Put simply, vacation sex is fun and, those early morning orgasms before heading down to the beach help maintain that gorgeous glow throughout your stay.”However, for many couples a vacation isn’t in the cards.
Dr. Costa’s solution? Plan a sexy staycation. Sometimes all you need is a change of scenery, a different bed and an “unplugging” from distractions to kick-start your sex life. As Dr. Costa suggests, “Get an overnight sitter, book a bed and breakfast, or try with something as simple as a lavish date night out on the town. The point is to not over-think it. Vacations are all about going with the flow, forgetting about your responsibilities and actually connecting with your sexy sidekick.”Whether it’s a chartered yacht in St.Tropez, or an evening spent at a local hotel, Dr. Costa says the time is more important than the location. As she points out, “When we take the time to intimately connect with our loved ones, whether that be through sex, cuddling, romantic encounters or otherwise, we rebuild our bonds to one another.”