"Blind readers: What's sexual attraction like for you?"

Love may be more blind than we realize. When someone posted a Reddit thread on Tuesday asking blind...

Love may be more blind than we realize. When someone posted a Reddit thread on Tuesday asking blind readers "What's sexual attraction like for you?"(Fotolia)

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Love may be more blind than we realize. When someone posted a Reddit thread on Tuesday asking blind readers “What’s sexual attraction like for you?” what resulted was a thought provoking post that created a collective, warm and fuzzy “awww!” across the Internet.

When the author’s brother lost his sight at age 24, he said he became much more in tune with the complexities of sexual attraction. As he explains, “Attraction on a relational level triggers the sexual stuff in a very major way. It's a combination of the voice, the personality, the way they pay attention to what you say, and above all the connection.” When he described meeting the woman he eventually married, he said that her personality won him over. “Attraction is weird, I could have sex with women I'd never seen and didn't really like, I'm not really proud of that now,” he says. However, now that he’s found his wife he said all that stuff seems “stupid and pointless." I can’t help but wonder, if we all lost our sight, would we still be attracted to the same people?

Recent research conducted by University College London indicates that when it comes to love and sexual attraction, non-visual cues are way more important than we realize. The researchers used pre-recorded statements from males and females and asked participants to judge the attractiveness of the speaker and the emotions being displayed. Their study revealed that males find high-pitched and breathy female voices with wide formant spacing the most attractive. Whereas females prefer a male voice that’s low-pitched with narrow formant spacing. This explains both the popularity of Playboy Radio and the majority of Barry White’s record sales.

Pheromones, the chemical messengers emitted by one creature to evoke a response in another of the same species - also play a huge part in sexual attraction. In other words, how we smell to each other influences who we want to get close to.

I once dated a man who had a deep voice that was so smooth and sexy, even my straight male roommate found it totally intoxicating. (I discovered this when he confessed to me, “Sometimes I replay his answering machine messages just so I can listen to him talk.”) It also didn’t hurt that this man smelled like a delicious mix of clean laundry with just a hint of cocoa butter. On the other hand, I have spent time with other attractive men, yet I couldn’t stand the way they smelled and their voices did nothing for me.

As another visually impaired Reddit poster commented, when it comes to sexual attraction “It's sound, smell, imagination all rolled into one. You smell her perfume and you hear her laugh….or just the inflection of a word. I can see her if I'm close up, like a kiss, but I get a blurry image and you just wish you can pull her closer.”

It’s easy to see why this Reddit post soared to popularity. In a world that’s completely image obsessed, it’s refreshing to be reminded that a true connection depends on more than what meets the eye.


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