Whether you are a swinging single looking to fulfill a fantasy or an established couple trying to spice things up, having a convo about “taboo” subjects can be awkward. (As with anything of this nature, personal boundaries must be approached with diplomacy, chivalry and respect.)
As an example, the idea of a threesome is one that appeals to a lot of people in theory but isn’t often acted out in reality. As someone who has been involved in several, I am often asked if it is really as much fun as one would imagine. Then the question turns to .."and how do you make it happen, John?"
The answer to the former is a resounding yes (so much fun in fact, while the latter is far more convoluted and complex.
Regardless of what you may read in books or online about surefire ways to get two women (or men) to hook up with you at the same time, such activities car rarely be planned in advance without coming across as seedy, desperate or awkward. This isn’t porn - this is real life - and the logistics alone can be too much for some people to handle.
The reality is that sometimes it just happens. The planets align, the tide is right, the wind is blowing in the right direction and everything just comes together. If such situations don’t present themselves however, there are plenty of opportunities to proactively seek out these kinds of opportunities.
Shlomo Benzion, owner of Wicked Club, a sex club in Toronto, knows a fair bit about this protocol. The club is celebrating its 10th anniversary this weekend and Benzion says that a new location opening up in Buenos Aires soon - an indication according to Benzion that people are embracing their sexuality more and worry less about what may be considered taboo acts.
“This is a fantasy for many people and we provide a safe environment to act out these desires,” says Benzion.
Acting out fantasies as a solo entity is far different from engaging in activities that may upset you or your partner. Someone can easily feel offended or left out so it is important to discuss intentions and boundaries beforehand.
As for the question of "..and how do you make it happen, John?," I can’t offer any advice. I also can’t recommend whether you should or shouldn’t go for it. It’s up to the comfort levels of each individual (personal morals could also play a part) to decide whether these fantasies are best acted out, or left as just those - fantasies.