There is a commonly held belief that the "sexual peaks" of men and women reside at opposite ends of a vast spectrum.
Perhaps the biggest joke of human physiology is that men, or boys rather, peak shortly after they begin shaving, while women reach the height of fertility in their mid-30s.
What could an 18-year-old boy and a 35-year-old woman possibly have in common? Aside from virility, fertility and the resulting heightened sexual prowess, the two couldn't be more poorly suited to each other.
Lisa Wade, a professor of sociology at Occidental College in California, questions what sexual peak actually means, however. In a recent column aptly named,"5 reasons your "sexual peak" might be fake," Wade suggests there are many reasons why an 18-year-old boy might be genetically predisposed to being a perfect lover -- but, in fact, is quite the opposite.
His interaction with the female body and his propensity to please are incredibly limited. While he might have more testosterone surging through his veins than he ever will again, he likely doesn't know, or perhaps even care, what a clitoris is.
Published in 1953, Alfred Kinsey's work, Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female, has largely paved the way for the contemporary notion of sexual peaks. If one considers hormone levels alone, then this theory is perhaps correct, but it raises the question as to why there aren't more relationships like Mrs. Robinson and Benjamin Braddock in The Graduate.
There are, of course, many other factors, such as how sexuality is perceived between the sexes. Curiosity and promiscuity in boys is expected, if not supported, while sexual self-exploration in girls is severely frowned upon. (If she is mindful of her sensibilities then she is a prude, but if she is secure with her sexuality she is thought a slut.)
How can she win? No wonder a woman's peak doesn't traditionally occur until she is old enough to disregard external perception and be comfortable with herself!
The question then becomes: "How do you rate your "sexual peak?" Is it the number of orgasms you can have in a day, or is it your comfort level with your body and your partner's. In both cases, there is no substitute for time and experience.
Given the choice between quality vs. quantity, I'm guessing most people would choose the former.
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