Going on a date or to a nightclub with your single girlfriends in your 20s probably meant you could get away with micro-miniskirts, pleather pants and plunging necklines. But if you’re no longer asked for ID at the liquor store, it may be time to rethink the wardrobe before cruising for men.
The Winnipeg Sun spoke with Libbi Walter, a personal shopper and fashion consultant at Holt Renfrew, and here’s what she suggested:
1. Step away from your daughter’s closet.
Wear something that plays up your best assets and fits properly. Cleavage is overrated, so is overtanned skin and over-processed hair. Be natural and be yourself. Men love a confident woman who doesn’t look like she’s trying to be something she’s not. Be proud of your age.
2. First-date attire should be discreetly sexy and classy, not cheap and easy.
No plunging necklines and no micro-mini lengths. You want to hook his interest, not scare him away by wearing something that says, “Va-va-voom, come and get me,” said Walter. Stay away from bright fuchsia coats and leopard-print dresses until later. You can’t go wrong with a sexy black dress and a shot of red lipstick on a first date.
3. Play up your strengths and camouflage your weaknesses.
If you’ve got great shoulders, wear a black sleeveless top. “You’d be amazed at how men respond to good shoulders,” said Walter. If your legs are toned, wear a skirt and sexy boots or shoes that are as high as you can handle. Avoid shoes that are too high to walk in or that come from a lingerie store. If your legs aren’t so great, wear a well-fitting dress pant or jeans.
4. Go for the minimal, manicured look.
Your cosmetics should make you look natural and pretty, not like a drag queen. “Play up the best you have in a minimal way,” said Walter. And don’t forget your hands and feet. “Men love to see pretty fingernails and toes. Red is still the sexiest colour for toes.”
5. Have someone younger — and honest — help you assess your look.
If you’re wiggly bits are hanging out, wear a longer blouse or longer skirt or shorts, regardless of how much you love the outfit. Wear something that stays in place so you won’t be distracted all evening trying to hoist your skirt down or keep your boobs from falling out.
6. Keep some secrets.
Many women struggle about whether or not to reveal their age when dating someone new. “There’s a mysterious aura created by not speaking of one’s age,” said Walter, adding she keeps that information to herself these days because age matters less once you’ve passed certain milestones in life. “It’s a matter of mental attitude and taking good care of yourself. Besides, 60 is the new 40.”
7. Like what you see in the mirror before going out.
Fitness and healthy eating are a part of sexiness. Take care of yourself and others will notice.
