It's not cheating if you've been given permission to double dip, right?

Key parties, wife swapping and sweaty full-on orgies may be the stuff of great porn but, surprisingly, a large number of young, committed couples are refusing to let the silicone stars have all the fun.

More and more couples are bumping, grinding, rubbing and tugging on their own terms -- right along with other couples.

Swinging's attracting a newer, younger crowd, swing club owners say -- they're sexy, youthful and adventurous, and these pleasure-seekers may be living in a condo next door to you.

"Definitely we've noticed younger swingers," says Ruthy Muller, a veteran swinger who, along with husband, David, operates Happy Hedonist, a swingers club located in Mississauga.

Ten years ago when the Mullers swung open the doors of what was then called Club Prive, many of the partygoers were either seasoned swingers or sexually curious middle-aged couples. But, in the words of Bob Dylan, the times they are a changin'.

'It's incredible'

"There's a new generation of swingers," says Ruthy. "We're the oldest, although not in our minds. It's incredible," chirps the 53-year-old.

David, 62, agrees.

"There's been a change in mindset. It's more open. Soon we'll be fornicating in the streets," he says, half-jokingly.

Swingers clubs, once relegated to secretive, far-flung locations, are opening up in more accessible urban areas to cater to the growing number of kinky hedonists in their 20s and 30s.

Enter a swingers club a decade ago and you'd likely discover a smorgasbord of excitable older men and women. Now there's a growing number of fresh faces, known in the community as "newbies," who are pumping fresh energy into the lifestyle.

One of those newbies, who goes by the pseudonym Miss Rogue, has been swinging with her boyfriend for about a year. She is bisexual, but her partner, like many men in the scene, is not.

Few things turn her on as much as watching the love of her life having sex with another woman.

"I think there's a common misconception the men are leading the women," Rogue says. But that's not the case, she insists.

"I have this weird kind of perversion," admits the 30-year-old graphic designer, who gently cajoled her boyfriend into swinging with her. Once the couple finds a compatible match, they may leave the club and take things further.

"I really like seeing him getting off with someone else, but I am also quite fussy with who we get together with," she says.

So how do they make their selection?

"You approach it like dating," says Rogue. "I told one woman I liked her dress. But it's like any bar -- sometimes you're there all night and you won't find anybody."

Aurora Benzion and her husband, Shlomo, both 32, took their interest in the lifestyle one step further by opening a spot of their own called Wicked Club, a private members-only swingers spot near Woodbridge. The goal was simple -- to attract younger swingers.

'Felt out of place'

"Some of these clubs started out in the '70s and '80s with the 'Let's put all our keys in one basket' idea," says Aurora Benzion.

"The first time we stepped into one of these clubs, we felt really out of place because the crowd was so much older. I felt like a teenager."

After a year in business, they are relocating to downtown Toronto this September because of the demand from swingers, voyeurs and exhibitionists in their 20s and 30s.

"We're getting a younger, more urban crowd. They're more curious and they want to experiment," she says. "They're 25 to 35, they live downtown and they want to party downtown."

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