Tips on feeling sexy after childbirth

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JOANNE RICHARD, Special to QMI Agency

, Last Updated: 1:27 PM ET

Get your groove back after a baby.

Pelvic floor muscles take a beating during childbirth, and vaginal muscles get stretched, according to Dr. Michele M. Hakakha, an obstetrician and gynecologist.

And sex can take a nosedive. “Many women have issues with restarting the intimacy in their relationship after having a child.”

Weight gain and intercourse discomfort can impact intimacy, say Hakakha, author of Expecting 411: Clear Answers and Smart Advice for Your Pregnancy.

“Know that your body went through an amazing process and needs time to come back to its pre-pregnancy shape,” says Hakakha. “Most people love their partners with fuller breasts and often fuller bottoms.”

Communication is key: Talk to your partner about your concerns and fears and take things slow – wait six weeks until after delivery for intercourse. “Some women need to ease back into things, such as having oral sex a few times before diving back into vaginal intercourse,” says the Beverly Hills doctor.

According to Hakakha, the muscular walls of the vagina are stretched dramatically during childbirth, causing conditions such as incontinence. “Particularly in women who are giving birth to larger babies or who push for longer periods of time, this can have lasting effects on the vaginal musculature, as well as all surrounding muscles – those of the bladder, urethra and rectum - collectively known as the pelvic floor muscles,” says Hakakha.

Bring on the Kegels! “In most cases, the laxity of the pelvic floor muscles can be strengthened. Kegel exercises are the best thing to start with,” says Hakakha, of michelehakakhamd.com.

To do Kegel exercises correctly and to know that you are isolating the correct muscle group, try to stop your stream of urine once you start going. “This can be done as early as six weeks after having a baby,” she says. Once you know which muscles you need to isolate, you will be able to do these exercises anywhere and they will come in handy once you start having intercourse again.

Take Hakakha’s tips to increase pelvic floor strength and bedroom fun:

  • While having intercourse, practise your Kegel exercises. Squeeze vaginal muscles to increase your orgasm strength, but your partner will love it too!
  • Consider using a vibrator, particularly one that can be inserted into the vagina. This can be done alone or with a partner. Practise squeezing and releasing vaginal muscles.
  • Having intercourse while sitting on top of your partner is not only a new position for some couples, but the motion of moving up and down also acts to strengthen your pelvic floor.
  • When you are ready, take a peek through the Kama Sutra! There are so many positions it can make your head spin. Try a few!
  • Begin a new exercise regimen. Take an hour away from your newborn a few times a week to try a new spin class, martial arts class or Zumba class. Exercise burns calories, releases natural endorphins that act as a natural aphrodisiac and a great recipe for fun sex!

 


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